The Key to A Successful Marriage: How to Have a Happy and Long Marriage?

By Ara H. Assilian

October 12, 2023

When we are getting married to someone, often we think that we are going to have the best happily ever after marriage. But remember you are marrying a person. Sharing your life with someone comes with its own set of challenges. Marriage requires a lot of effort, do you agree?

Marriages take work, commitment, and love, but also need respect and loyalty to truly work.

A happily ever after marriage doesn’t just happen. It’s a beautiful and ongoing process, akin to the crafting of poetry. Both spouses have to do their part. Below are some of the important keys to work on each day to make your marriage successful.

5 Ways to Have a Successful Marriage

Everyone has different definitions of a “Happy marriage”. You must have your own. So, here are a few ways to have a successful marriage:

Quality Time Needs to be a Priority

It doesn’t matter if it’s a weekly thing or a monthly getaway, it is crucial for a couple to invest in regularly checking in on each other. Moreover, always make sure that you step aside from all your other responsibilities and give each other time. Life goes on in seasons. Therefore, work, children, events, et cetera, are going to keep happening in your life, but the way you spend quality time together may be different for everyone.

Learn Each Other’s Love Language

I am sure we all love our partners passionately. However, it is not necessary that the way we love them makes them feel loved. Everyone has different ways of feeling loved, don’t they? For some its physical touch and for some it’s words of affirmation. It is crucial we learn about our spouse’s love language. This way we can always learn to appreciate and love them the way they’d want it.

Manage Conflict Constructively

The way you manage conflict in your relationship matters a lot. Moreover, there are times when people fight and don’t talk about it, and some people prefer space. Hence, how you navigate everything makes all the difference.

Assuming positive intent when your partner does something, you perceive as hurtful can help avoid unnecessary fights. Always remember, it’s not you vs. him, it’s you both against the problem.

Open and Honest Communication

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy marriage. Similarly, it’s vital to express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly and honestly with your spouse. Make sure you create a safe and non-judgmental space where both of you can share your thoughts without fear of criticism.

Additionally, listening actively to each other is equally important. Sometimes, it’s not just about what you say but how you say it and how well you listen to your partner.